Talkin' 'Bout My Man!

Feb 14, 2018
Steve Black and Michelle Fox snuggling at a dinner table.

Earlier this month I posted a video on Instagram about how much I LOVE the month of LOVE.  I always have.  Even as a child I loved creating Valentines’ Day cards to give to my friends and to my Mom and Dad.

  I love the month of love - Layton


 This year is a little different.  February is still my favorite month to celebrate love and to celebrate Black history.  It is also the month I lost my nephew Layton (last year and still heart-wrenching) and a month that seems to give more permission to celebrate my current love life out loud.


Steve is the man who has my heart – my true Valentine.  You know how when you meet someone and it feels like you’ve known them forever after one conversation?  Yeah, that’s how I felt on our first date. 


The man is relatively shy and very private, so let’s see what I can share…


For this one I’m going to lean on one of my favorite songs from India Arie...and yes I got Steve's blessing before hitting the publish button on this one.   


The Truth

 Let me tell you why I love him

'Cause he is the truth

Said he is so real

And I love the way that he makes me feel

And if I am a reflection of him

Then I must be fly, 'cause his light, it shines so bright

I wouldn't lie, no


Steve and I have both worked (and continue to work) hard to create true partnership.  We have very similar values, but we also leave a lot of room for each other’s different views.  In fact, one of the catch phrases you’ll hear around our house is, “I see things differently.”  This often has me laughing out loud as I know an intense conversation is about to follow.


I love this!  I love that we have created safe and sacred space for individuality and togetherness.


I remember the very first day that I saw him

I found myself immediately intrigued by him


We were at City Park Jazz, here in Denver, quite a few years ago the first time I met Steve.  His daughter spotted Angel, who was her classmate at the time, and they came over to our picnic blanket.  Our conversation was casual but I was drawn to his smile…and those Scorpio eyes!  Lord have mercy!


I love the month of love - watermelon 


It's almost like I knew this man from another life

Like back then maybe I was his husband, maybe he was my wife

The two of us talk a lot about past lives and I have NO doubt we have explored a few lives together.  I know that I am willing to put in the work during this lifetime to make our bond as strong as possible. 


And even the things I don't like about him are fine with me

'Cause it's not hard for me to understand him 

'Cause he's so much like me

And it's truly my pleasure to share his company

And I know that it's God's gift to breathe the air he breathes

 'Cause he is the truth

Said he is so real

And I love the way that he makes me feel

And if I am a reflection of him

Then I must be fly

Because his light, it shines so bright

I wouldn't lie, no, oh

How can the same man that makes me so mad (Do you know what he did?)

Turn right around and kiss me so soft (girl, you know what he did?)

If he ever left me I wouldn't even be sad, no


Insert record scratch.  The song leaves me hanging at this point.  I believe in what Steve and I are creating.  We are making plans for a lifetime together.  I LOVE the family we have created.  So, yes, I would be VERY sad if he left me.  Insert nervous laughter.  Let’s continue with the lyrics…

I love the month of love - Angel Lucy Oliver


'Cause there's a blessing in every lesson

And I'm glad that I know him at all

I love the way he speaks

I love the way he thinks

I love the way that he treats his mama

If you’ve met my man chances are high that you’ve witnessed the way he protects those around him.  There is a special tenderness to the way he treats his mother (and mine), sister (and mine), daughter (and mine) and the rest of our family and friends.  Witnessing his relationship with his Mom is one of the things that won me over early on.

I love the month of love - Steve and Angel


Love him in every way that a woman can love a man

From personal to universal

But most of all it's unconditional

You know what I'm talking about?

That's the way I feel

And I always will

There ain't no substitute for the truth

Either it is or it isn't, 'cause he is the truth

You see the truth it needs no proof

Either it is or it isn't, 'cause he is the truth

And you know the truth by the way it feels

And if I am a reflection of him

Then I must be fly

Because he is, yes, he is (fly, light, bright)

I wonder does he know


I have a sneaky suspicion that he knows that I love him and knows that I cherish him and knows that I am so entirely grateful for him.  That, however, will not stop me from telling him every day!


Happy LOVE month my friends!

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